Happy Monday, friends! I hope you had a great weekend and that you are ready for the week ahead. Keeping with my Monday theme of doing more telling than selling, today let’s chat more about goals. Specifically, can you see your goal?
Can You See Your Goal?
A few weeks ago I discussed how to reach your goal. Since then I’ve thought even more about it. An essential step in achieving your goal is to imagine how things will be different once you have. What will your life be like? How will things change? What will you be doing differently? Can you see the benefit?
When I ask, can you see your goal, what I mean is: can you see yourself achieving your goal? The reason this is so crucial is because sometimes what you think you want isn’t really what you want at all.
Your Goal May Need to Change
Your goal may need to change once you see what it will actually look like. Let me give you an example. Although I realize there are so many goals we set besides weight loss, after working in the industry (WW) for 15 years I have more than my share of instances to help prove a point. So often I’d have members join WW with the goal of losing weight. Some were desperate to lose a certain amount by a certain date for a certain event. They’d do almost anything to get there. The problem? Extreme dieting behaviors weren’t a good fit for the long run so they might get to the goal but they could not stay there.
For this reason, your goal may need to change. On the way to achieving a goal you get a good feel for what you need to do differently, the changes you need to make. Ask yourself, are you willing to do this all the time? Is this your new lifestyle? Are you happy? If you are answering no then it’s a good indication your goal needs to change.
My Personal Experience
My personal experience with growing my blog and Instagram involved (and continues to involve) lots of change and realization. For the last few years I have been listening, reading, and watching influencers share all kinds of tips and tricks to grow, grow, grow. I was hooked and had my sights set on growth. I wanted to make it big – but I never really understood what that would look like or what it even meant for that matter. What I never asked myself was why I wanted to grow so badly and what that would actually do for me. I also never stopped to imagine how it would look once I achieved the goal – could I actually see myself and how things would change?
Once I stepped away for the few weeks I took off I saw things a bit more clearly. Mostly because I didn’t want to return. If I grew my Instagram, how much time would I need to spend on the app? How often did I need to post? Could I see myself responding to comments, sending links, and commenting on other accounts? What would the benefit be to me? The answers to these questions became pretty clear and then my goal changed. Imagining what my life would look like helped me put things in perspective and realize that what I thought I wanted wasn’t really what I wanted at all.
The truth of the matter is that I don’t have the time or energy to have a huge social media following. This realization helped me shift my focus and my goal. Rather than growth, my goals is now service. Ultimately I want to be a resource, a provider of information and motivation. My focus is engagement at an achievable level and I am allowing myself to step away. Giving myself the permission to unplug will help me maintain and keep making forward progress.
How About You?
So, how about you? Is there some area of your life you are working on? Has it been hard to reach the goal you set? If it has, try asking yourself if you can see your goal. Maybe you haven’t reached the goal yet because it isn’t the right one and won’t be a good fit. Embrace that. Use what you might have thought was failure as feedback to figure out what you really want.
I hope this helps you! I’d love to know your thoughts on the subject. Have you had experience setting a goal and visualizing what that success would look and feel like?