So glad you’re here for another Mental Health Monday or maybe a better title for this series would be Make You Think Monday! Anyway, one of the things I have found to be true over and over again is that I am not all that special. Now, before you think I am heading down a trail of woe is me, I mean that my experiences are not all that special. Nor are they unique. Some may find this disturbing, I find this very comforting.
When I experience something and share it here on the blog or on social media, I am amazed at the messages I get. Others feel the same! It’s not just me. In fact, the quote above was sent to me by a dear friend this weekend. This happened after I shared an experience on Saturday morning.
I won’t even bother to ask if you have been hurt. I believe we all have. Typically I move away from people who hurt me over and over again. But what do you do if you cannot? What if it’s a relative? A close family friend?
Sometimes you can talk it out with the person, sometimes not. I have decided that I will not allow a repeat offender to continue to hurt me and that it’s up to me how I handle it. I can allow it to fester and I can resort to my knee jerk reaction of lashing out in anger. What’s the point? Things escalate and there’s no peace.
So, I am choosing to allow myself to feel the hurt and anger. I will then do what comforts me most and pray about it. I will NOT pay more attention to it, tell others about it, ask someone else to help. Nope. Not gonna do it. I acknowledge the hurt and pain and anger and then make a conscious decision to LET IT GO and realize this can make me stronger and better. It’s like a workout. It hurts but you will emerge stronger.
I used to think that if I felt this way when someone hurt me that it was weakness on my part. How can I be someone with good mental health if I am angry and hurt by what someone has said or texted? Now I know that’s not true at all. It’s how I react that makes me a person with good mental health. That’s who I choose to be.
Does this resonate with you? I hope so. Share this with someone you think it might help.
I have been a Licensed Mental Health Counselor since 1997. I do not currently practice as I work in school counseling but I’ll never let my license expire. My Monday posts have a little more of a mental health theme designed to help you think a little differently. While I am certainly not dispensing advice or treatment, I do hope these posts help you. Initially I started blogging as a creative outlet and as a way to empower women in midlife and beyond to dress and feel like the best version of themselves everyday. I have come to realize that a big part of that is how we feel about life circumstances. Hence the reason for these posts!
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